HAPPY WEEKEND

I’ve read that most people spend their weekends watching TV, shopping, worrying about not having money and dreading the week ahead. I’m not surprised, because not so long ago, I was one of those people. At one point in my life I was doing three jobs, I had no days off, I was really depressed, living in a vicious circle, ruining my health, my relationships and not enjoying my life at all. That’s how I learned (the hard way) the importance of taking at least one day off and dedicating it to yourself, your mental and physical health, your family, friends and generally people and things you love. So I decided to write weekend posts on how you can spend your weekend. Most ideas will be totally free or inexpensive, but powerful and life changing. They changed mine. Really, guys, it’s the little things in life. I hope you get inspired. ❤

This weekend you should really…

  • Wake up before everybody else, make a yummy breakfast, set the table (napkins, flowers, nice plates and cups) and enjoy the happy faces of your loved ones while you’re enjoying delicious food. I promise you, it’s my favourite thing in the world. Plus, you will be the hero of the day and I guarantee, when you start your morning like this, you will set the tone for the rest of the day and it’s going to be the best ever.  Click here for a breakfast idea.
  • Hit the road. Seriously. Pack up some food, a camera, a blanket and a ball and go somewhere you’ve never been before. A near-by village, a forest, a park, a beach… Leave all your worries and your watch at home and just be, breathe, lie on the grass, walk barefoot, laugh and take a lot of pictures. Try to capture the most random moments, genuine smiles and happy faces.
  • Think of somebody you haven’t heard from in a while, somebody that you miss. Maybe somebody you had a fight with. Be the bigger person and forget the disagreement. Call them or send them a message to let them know you are thinking about them. But even if you don’t get the reaction you expected, be fine with it and feel good about yourself, because the first step is the hardest and it takes a lot of courage to make it.

Happy weekend!

Bisous,
Fée


 

Pročitala sam negdje da većina ljudi vikende provodi gledajući televiziju, kupujući stvari koje im ne trebaju, brinuci se zbog novca i uzasavajuci se tjedna koji slijedi. Ne cudim se, jer nekoć sam i ja bila jedna od tih ljudi. Zapravo, bila sam i gora, jer sam vikende provodila radeci. U jednom sam periodu radila tri posla, sto znači da nisam niti jedan dan bila slobodna, bila sam u teskoj depresiji, zivjela u začaranom krugu, unistavala svoje zdravlje, odnose s ljudima oko sebe i uopće nisam uzivala u zivotu. Ne tezi sam način naucila koliko je vazno barem jedan dan u tjednu uzeti predah od svega, posvetiti se sebi, svojem mentalnom i fizičkom zdravlju, obitelji i prijateljima. To me potaknulo da započnem seriju vikend-postova u kojima ću vam davati ideje kako kvalitetno provesti slobodno vrijeme. Nece vam biti potrebno nista osim malo volje i vremena, a nekad je i jedno popodne dovoljno da vam cijeli tjedan bude bolji. Ja sam vam dokaz da takve sitnice mijenjaju zivot.

Ovaj biste vikend mogli…

  • Probuditi se pola sata prije ostalih ukućana, pripremiti fini doručak, postaviti stol malo ljepse nego obicno (ubrusi, cvijece, fini tanjuri i salice) i uzivati u odusevljenju koje će nastati kad se svi probude i vide sto ih čeka. Meni je to najvece zadovoljstvo. Obecavam da ćete biti junak dana i da će vam zahvajujući divnom jutru, cijeli dan biti ljepsi. Po jutru se dan poznaje, zar ne? Ako trebate zgodan recept za dorucak, kliknite ovdje.
  •  Spakirati sendviče, uzeti fotoaparat, deku i loptu i uputiti se nekamo gdje dugo niste bili. Obliznje selo, suma, park, plaza… Sve brige i sat ostavite kod kuće i jednostavno bivajte, disite, lezite na travi, hodajte bosi, smijte se i puno fotografirajte. Pokusajte uhvatiti spontane trenutke, iskrene osmjehe i sretna lica i neka vas te fotografije cijeli tjedan griju – do sljedećeg vikenda.
  • Sjetite se nekoga koga dugo niste čuli, nekoga tko vam nedostaje. Mozda nekoga s kime ste se posvadili. Budite zreliji i pametniji i prijedjite preko svega. Nazovite tu osobu ili joj posaljite poruku i dajte joj do znanja da vam je zao i da mislite na nju. No ako i ne dobijete reakciju kakvu ste očekivali, prihvatite to i odajte si priznanje, jer prvi je korak najtezi i iziskuje puno hrabrosti.

Uzivajte u vikendu!

Bisous,
Fée

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#WEEKENDCOFFEESHARE

 

There is a beautiful community of bloggers who participate in #weekendcoffeeshare, which means that every weekend they publish posts about what they would say to their readers if they were sitting down and having coffee. A lot of bloggers reflect on their week, while some of them share their random thoughts, worries, emotional burdens, etc. It’s a beautiful way to carve out space for more intimate and personal posts, especially for bloggers with topical, specific blogs. As soon as I’ve learned about #weekendcoffeeshare, I decided to join the community, because I find sharing personal thoughts very healing and powerful. I cannot tell you what I will be writing about, but I presume there will be some inspiring thoughts, plans for the week ahead or maybe even parts of my book that I have been writing for years. I will do my best to be consistent and do this every Sunday, starting from today. So prepare your cup of coffee or tea and let’s start.

If we were having coffee…

I would tell you not to mind the boxes lying around the house, waiting to be filled with our stuff and shipped to our new home. I would even suggest you to drink the coffee outside, because on a beautiful day like this, it’s a shame to be inside. If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I haven’t been sleeping a lot lately and it’s not because I am stressed or worried about something, but because I feel I have too much creative energy stored inside that keeps me up at night. I’m a strong believer in the power of both positive and negative energy and that it should always change form and never be held back. You are probably wondering what I do at night. When Kiara falls asleep, I usually make myself coffee, put on some music and listen to it attentively and ponder upon lyrics. Then I read poetry or articles on things like co-sleeping and breastfeeding, bilingual children, French bulldogs, feng shui and other random things that I’m curious about. And I write a lot. Sometimes just paragraphs that someday, I imagine, are going to be put together into a book, blog posts ideas or things and people I am grateful for at the moment. I have been enjoying myself so much that I’m sorry that I don’t have my piano with me to play a little. I have even been thinking about buying some canvas to paint, and I have never painted in my life! Imagine that! I know that this may sound crazy, but I’m not tired at all. Sleep deprivation is probably going to catch up with me eventually, but for now, I’m enjoying myself so much that I feel like I have more energy throughout the day, like I’m so excited about life that I don’t want to waste time sleeping.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I think people don’t know how to enjoy their time anymore and that everything is revolving around TV and social media. Try to get creative sometimes and make something. It does’t have to include writing or painting. Make a cake, plant a flower, reorganise your kitchen cabinets, but whatever you do, do it with no distractions (so preferably when you’re home alone) and let yourself fall into the meditative state, focus on what you’re doing and don’t think about anything else. I promise, you will feel amazing.

It’s 5.40, Sunday morning. The Sun is rising, birds are chirping and I can tell it’s going to be a beautiful day. I feel so alive and happy. It’s going to be a beautiful day.

Bisous,
Fée


Postoji divna zajednica blogera koji sudjeluju u izazovu pod nazivom #weekendcoffeeshare (ispijanje kave vikendom). To znaci da svaki vikend objavljuju postove u kojima pisu sve ono sto bi svojim citateljima rekli da sjede i zajedno piju kavu. U tim se postovima neki blogeri osvrcu na protekli tjedan, drugi pak pisu o svojim mislima, brigama, emocionalnim teretima, itd. Na taj nacin stvaraju prostor za osobnije tekstove, posebno blogeri koji se bavi tocno odredjenim, neosobnim temama. Cim sam saznala za #weekendcoffeeshare izazov, odlucila sam u njemu sudjelovati, zato sto vjerujem da je izrazavanje osobnih misli vrlo iscjeljujuce i blagotvorno. Nemam tocno odredjeni plan o cemu cu pisati, jer cu jednostavno pustiti da me misli vode, ali naci ce se sigurno inspirirajucih misli, planova za naredni tjedan, a mozda i dijelova knjige koju vec godinama pisem. Trudit cu se biti redovita i pisati svake nedjelje, pocevsi od danas. Natocite si kavu ili caj i krenimo…

Da upravo sjedimo i pijemo kavu…

Rekla bih ti da se ne obazires na kutije po cijeloj kuci koje cekaju da ih napunimo stvarima i posaljemo u novi dom. Predlozila bih ti da sjednemo van, jer za ovako lijepog dana, steta je biti zatvoren u kuci. Rekla bih ti da u posljednje vrijeme jako malo spavam, ali ne zato sto me nesto opterecuje ili brine, nego zato sto osjecam da sam puna kreativne energije koju sam predugo drzala u sebi i koja mi sada ne da spavati. Duboko vjerujem u moc i pozitivne i negativne energije, te da, kakva god bila, energija uvijek treba mijenjati svoj oblik. Sigurno se pitas sto radim nocu ako ne spavam. Kad Kiara zaspi, skuham si kavu, pustim glazbu, pozorno je slusam i duboko razmisljam o rijecima. Potom citam poeziju ili clanke o co-sleepingu i dojenju, o dvojezicnim obiteljima, francuskim buldozima i feng shuiju, odnosno o svemu sto me trenutno zanima. Puno pisem. Ponekad nepovezane odlomke koji ce jednog dana biti spojeni u knjigu (barem tako zamisljam), ideje za blog ili stvari i ljude na kojima sam zahvalna. Toliko uzivam u tom stvaranju, da mi je zao sto moj klavir nije ovdje da malo zasviram. Iako nikad u zivotu nisam slikala, razmisljam o kupnji pribora za slikanje! Zamisli to! Znam da zvuci ludo, ali uopce nisam umorna. Iako znam da cu uskoro osjetiti manjak sna, trenutno maksimalno uzivam, zbog cega se ta energija prelijeva u dan pa zbog te silne srece i uzbudjenja ne zelim trositi vrijeme na spavanje.

Da upravo sjedimo i pijemo kavu, rekla bih ti da mislim da ljudi vise ne znaju uzivati u slobodnom vremenu i da se sve vrti oko televizora i drustvenih mreza. Rekla bih ti da i ti pokusas ponekad biti kreativan/a. Ne moras pisati ili slikati. Napravi tortu, posadi cvijet, preslozi kuhinjske elemente. Potpuno je nevazno sto ces raditi, vazno je samo da te nista ne ometa i da padnes u to predivno meditativno stanje, da se fokusiras na ono sto radis i ne mislis ni na sto drugo. Osjecat ces se sjajno.

5.40 sati, nedjelja ujutro. Sunce izlazi, ptice pjevaju i po svemu sudeci, bit ce ovo divan dan. Puna sam energije i sretna. Bit ce ovo divan dan.

Bisous
Fée

WHEN YOU’RE FEELING LIKE A TREE

When I was 18, I got depressed and for more than 10 years I never really got better. For more than 10 years almost every day was a battle with myself. In the morning, I would wake up and lay in bed fearing the day. During the day, I would walk around carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. There were no days, weekends, parties, holidays, vacations that I truly enjoyed and I can’t remember one single moment when I was utterly happy, relaxed and carefree. Luckily, I have no experience with addictions, self-harm or eating disorders which are very common, but I do have experience with bad choices, fake friendships and desperate attempts to be accepted and loved. I guess I was very sensitive, extremely insecure and scared of failure and loneliness. Of being rejected. Of being not enough.

When I hit rock bottom, I decided to get help because deep inside I knew that life was more than that. Since then, I have made tremendous progress, practicing self-love, becoming more self-aware and just the happy, grateful and positive person that I have always wanted to be. Do you know that 121 million people in the world currently suffer from some sort of depression? Unfortunately, very few people talk about it, but I will. Knowing that hundreds of millions of people are in a dark and lonely place where I once was, makes me want to share my story on how I battled depression almost completely by myself and hopefully help someone.

Although I haven’t been depressed for a few years now, just like everybody, I have my cloudy days when I feel unmotivated, when I don’t love myself enough and when I forget to count my blessings. A while ago I read an interesting saying: “If you’re not happy where you are, move. You’re not a tree.” Well, sometimes life gets in the way and we all feel like a tree. On a scale of emotions, hopelessness would be the lowest and most negative one. It is also an emotion I am very familiar with so I have a lot of tips on how to deal with it that I want to share with you today. If you practice some of them regularly or preferably every day, not only when you’re feeling down, very soon you will start feeling better and those cloudy days will become shorter and rarer.

  • TAKE A BATH

Water is unbelievably healing. It helps clear your thoughts and wash off unwanted emotions. I always take a bath when I’m  feeling down, I put on some music, light candles and just enjoy peace and quiet for half an hour.

  • BE ACTIVE

I don’t need to tell you that physical activity lifts up your mood and makes you feel good about yourself. You don’t have to run a marathon. A simple walk in the park or playing with your kids outside will make you feel like you’ve accomplished something. Fresh air and nature do wonders for our souls and the worst thing you can do is sit on the couch. When you’re feeling the worst, just put on those shoes and get outside. I promise, you will feel so much better!

  • PRACTICE MINDFULNESS

This is so important and I’m happy that more and more people are aware of it. You can pray, meditate, listen to classical music or just stare through the window, but spending 10 minutes a day alone in silence can literally change your life. You will feel more relaxed, focused, your thoughts will be clearer and more positive, and you will even sleep better. But don’t wait for rainy days. Start practicing mindfulness today and make time for it. I meditate and pray every day, no matter how tired or busy I am.  I just can’t imagine my day without it and I think this was the crucial element in battling depression.

  • NOURISH YOUR BODY AND SOUL

Although a lot of people reach for “comfort food” like ice-cream, Nutella or a burger when they are feeling down, I don’t really think sugary and greasy food made anybody feel better. Only more depressed, fatter and sicker. That’s why it’s very important to watch our diet and make sure to eat healthy, nutritious food like fruit salads, fresh vegetables and soups. It will help you feel and look better, healthier and energised.

  • UNPLUG

Get off social media for a day or two, because it can only make you more depressed or anxious. Spend time reading, jogging or working around the house instead. If you have a garden, even better! I love reading or watching inspirational videos or listening to podcasts. I have just started “The 5 AM Miracle with Jeff Sanders” and I’m really liking it so far. I’ve noticed that stress relieving colouring books are very popular right now so I think I’ll get one of those too.

  • CHOOSE YOUR COMPANY

When I’m feeling down, I prefer being alone or with people who lift me up. Try to avoid people who are negative or drain your energy. Spending time with kids, for example, is always a good idea. I love to take my daughter to the park, breathe fresh air and watch her admire trees, rocks, flowers and birds – everything we take for granted too often. She reminds me to always be grateful and to stop and smell the roses

  • BE KIND TO YOURSELF

So you’re having a bad day. You’ve stayed in bed all day, you didn’t go to work, you fed your kids pizza and you haven’t even showered. You may have even smoked that just-in-case cigarette you were keeping in the kitchen drawer since New Year’s when you stopped smoking. So what? It’s just a bad day and it happens to everybody. It’s not the end of the world. Tomorrow will be better. You will be better, know better and do better.

  • IF NOTHING IS WORKING…

Sit down, take a piece of paper and write down what kind of person you want to be, what you need to do and what habits you need to form in order to become that person. For example, if you want to learn a new language, find language schools near you or a private teacher. Make a schedule and decide how much time a week you are ready to dedicate to learning it. If you want to lose weight, print out a healthy meal plan and go grocery shopping. Make a fitness plan or start by introducing small, healthy habits, like walking to work or taking stairs. The most important thing is to set small goals for every week. Think about where you will be in a year, but go step by step. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, because you will only feel worse if you fail. And write everything down. When I see my goals written on a piece of paper, I take them more seriously and motivate myself more easily.

 

Bisous,

Fée


 

Kad sam imala 18 godina, pala sam u depresiju i vise od 10 godina nisam iz nje izasla. Vise od 10 godina svakog sam dana vodila borbu sama sa sobom. Ujutro bih se probudila i bojala se ustati iz kreveta strepeci od onoga sto mi donosi dan. Danju bih hodala s ogromnim teretom na ledjima, imala sam osjecaj kao da nosim probleme cijelog svijeta na ramenima. Nije bilo dana, vikenda, zabave, blagdana ili odmora u kojima sam uzivala. Zapravo, ne sjecam se nijednog trenutka u kojem sam bila istinski sretna, opustena i bezbrizna. Srecom, nikada nisam imala problema s ovisnoscu, samoozljedjivanjem i poremecajima prehrane koji su vrlo cesti kod depresivnih osoba. Medjutim, imala sam problema s losim odlukama, laznim prijateljstvima i ocajnim nastojanjima da budem voljena i prihvacena. Vjerojatno sam bila previse osjetljiva i nesigurna te sam se bojala neuspjeha i usamljenosti. Napustanja i odbijanja. Osjecaja manje vrijednosti.

Kad sam dotaknula dno, odlucila sam potraziti pomoc, jer nesto mi je govorilo da zivot nije zamisljen kao tuzno, mracno i hladno mjesto, nego kao slavlje, igra i blagostanje. Otad sam mnogo napredovala, pocela voljeti sebe, postala svjesnija, sretnija, zahvalnija i pozitivnija osoba kakva sam oduvijek htjela biti. Znate li da u ovom trenutku oko 120 milijuna ljudi pati od nekog oblika depresije? Nazalost, malo njih govori o tome, ali ja hocu. Spoznaja da stotine milijuna osoba cuci u mraku, kao sto sam ja nekad, ne dopusta mi da mirno sjedim i nista ne poduzimam. Kroz seriju postova ispricat cu svoju pricu i objasniti kako sam potpuno sama pobijedila depresiju, te na taj nacin, nadam se, pomoci nekima koji mozda misle da nema izlaza.

Iako je depresija daleko iza mene, kao i svi drugih ljudi, i ja imam lose dane kad se osjecam nemotiviranom, kad zaboravim voljeti sebe i zahvaljivati na svim blagoslovima. Nedavno sam procitala zgodan citat: “Ako nisi zadovoljan gdje se trenutno nalazis, pokreni se! Nisi stablo!” Iako zvuci vrlo jednostavno, znam da se ponekad svi osjecamo poput stabla. Ukopano i bespomocno. Kad bismo emocije poslagali po nekoj skali, bespomocnost bi kao najnegativnija emocija bila na samom dnu. Meni je jako poznata, jer sam se previse puta osjecala poput stabla, poput nijemog, bespomocnog promatraca, nedovoljno jakog da se pomakne s mjesta. Danas cu s vama podijeliti metode koje svakodnevno prakticiram i zahvaljujuci kojima su dani kad se osjecam kao stablo vrlo rijetki i kratki. Svakako vam savjetujem da ih prakticirate svaki dan, ne samo za losih dana, i obecajem vam, osjecat cete se puno bolje.

  • OKUPAJTE SE

Voda ima nevjerojatnu moc. Ispire negativne emocije i prociscava misli. Kad se ne osjecam najbolje, napravim si toplu kupku, pustim glazbu, zapalim svijece i pola sata uzivam u miru.

  • BUDITE AKTIVNI

Vjerojatno svatko od nas zna da fizicka aktivnost povoljno utjece na raspolozenje i samopouzdanje. I za to se ne trebamo satima znojiti u teretani ili trcati maraton. Kratka setnja u parku ili igra s djecom na zraku bit ce dovoljna da se osjecamo bolje. Svjezi zrak i priroda doista cine cuda i najgore sto mozete uciniti za svoje zdravlje i raspolozenje je sjediti pred TV-om. Kad se osjecate najgore, obujte cipele i izadjite: dan ce vam odmah biti puno bolji.

  • BUDITE SVJESNI

Ovaj je dio nevjerojatno vazan i sretna sam sto sve vise ljudi to razumije. Nije bitno hocete li moliti, meditirati, slusati Mozarta ili jednostavno buljiti kroz prozor, ali 10 minuta na dan provedenih u tisini i samoci promijenit ce vam zivot. Bit cete opusteniji, usredotoceniji, misli ce vam biti jasnije i pozitivnije, a i spavat cete bolje. Ali nemojte cekati lose dane. Vec danas nadjite 10 minuta i provedite ih u tisini koncentrirajuci se na disanje i otpustajuci misli. Ja svaki dan meditiram i molim, neovisno o tome koliko sam zauzeta ili umorna. Ne mogu zamisliti dan bez toga i sigurna sam da je to bio najvazniji element u mojoj borbi protiv depresije.

  • NAHRANITE DUSU I TIJELO

Na kraju loseg i stresnog dana, ljudi vecinom posezu za slatkom i masnom hranom poput sladoleda, Nutelle i hamburgera misleci da ce se tako opustiti i osjecati bolje. A na kraju se osjecaju jos gore, bolesnije i deblje. Prehrana je nevjerojatno vazna i zato je svakako preporucljivo jesti zdravu hranu poput vocnih salata, svjezeg povrca i toplih juha. Osjecat cete se i izgledati bolje i zdravije te biti puni energije.

  • ISKOPCAJTE SE

Na dan, dva zaboravite na vijesti i drustvene mreze. Zbog njih cete se osjecati samo jos gore. Umjesto toga citajte, trcite ili radite nesto po kuci. Ako imate vrt, jos bolje! Ja volim citati ili gledati inspirativne videe ili slusati podcaste. Bas sam pocela slusati “The 5 AM Miracle with Jeff Sanders” i doista mi se svidja. Znam da su trenutno popularne bojanke za odrasle koje djeluju relaksirajuce i oslobadjajuce i mislim da cu ih svakako nabaviti.

  • BIRAJTE DRUSTVO

Kad se osjecam lose, najvise volim biti sama ili s ljudima koji me pune pozitivnom energijom. Izbjegavajte negativne ljude koji se stalno na nesto zale i pritom vam crpe energiju. Djeca su izvrsno drustvo. Ja obozavam ici u park sa svojom kceri, boraviti na svjezem zraku i promatrati je kako se svemu divi: drvecu, kamenju, cvijecu i pticama. Ponekad je promatram kako jede, kako prinosi hranu ustima, polako zvace, potpuno uronjena u trenutak, dozivljaj, okus i miris. Djeca nas podsjecaju da budem zahvalni na svemu sto nas okruzuje i uzivamo u trenutku.

  • BUDITE BLAGI PREMA SEBI

Pa dobro, imate los dan. Cijeli ste dan u krevetu, niste otisli na posao, nije vam se dalo kuhati pa ste djeci narucili pizzu. Pa sto? Niste se ni otusirali, ali ste popusili onu cigaretu koju ste od Nove godine, kad ste prestali pusiti, cuvali u ladici za svaki slucaj. Da i? To je samo jedan los dan koji koji se svima dogadja. Sutra ce biti bolje. Vi cete se osjecati bolje, bit cete pametniji i bolji nego danas.

  • AKO BAS NISTA NE POMAZE

Sjednite za stol, uzmite komad papira i razmislite kakva osoba zelite biti te sto morate uciniti da biste to postali. Na primjer, ako zelite nauciti novi strani jezik, nadjite skole stranih jezika i privatne ucitelje u svojoj blizini. Odlucite koliko ste vremena tjedno spremni posvetiti ucenju jezika i napravite raspored. Ili recimo da zelite smrsaviti. Sastavite plan prehrane i nabavite zdrave namirnice. Napravite plan treninga ili pak od danas pocnite uvoditi male promjene koje ce puno znaciti, poput pjesacenja na posao ili izbjegavanja lifta. Odredite male ciljeve po tjednima. Imajte u mislima gdje cete biti za godinu dana, ali idite korak po korak. Nemojte si stvarati veliki pritisak, jer time povecavate mogucnost za neuspjeh. I obavezno sve zapisujte. Kod mene to uvijek pali, jer kad vidim ciljeve na papiru, shvacam ih ozbiljnije i lakse se posvecujem ostvarenju istih.

Bisous,

Fée