SECOND TRIMESTER

 

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Drugo tromjesečje

Upravo sam shvatila da uskoro ulazim u 30. tjedan trudnoće i da sam već debelo zagazila u treće tromjesečje. Doista ne znam kako je moguće da sve trudnoće nakon prve prolaze tako brzo, ali sigurna sam da je jedan od razloga to što sam opuštena i ne strepim nad svakim pokretom, a i to što su mi dani od jutra do večeri ispunjeni brigom za starije dijete. Kad me netko pita kako sam, često se znam našaliti da nemam ni vremena razmišljati o tome i da sam možda upravo zato, bez pretjerivanja, sjajno.

U prvoj trudnoći uopće nisam bila sjajno. Srećom, ni tada nisam imala baš nikakvih komplikacija i trudnoća je tekla točno kako treba, no svih sam se 9 mjeseci i 2 tjedna osjećala neobjašnjivo čudno, kao da ja nisam bila ja. Iskreno, sve do sada mislila sam da su priče o blaženom stanju i trudnočkom sjaju čista laž te da je trudnoća nešto što se vuče 9 mjeseci i mora preživjeti. Ovoga puta je situacija potpuno drukčija, a ni sama nisam sigurna zašto je tomu tako. Fizički se osjećam fantastično, nemam problema ni sa čime, ne osjećam nikakve bolove ili težinu u tijelu. Naprotiv, puna sam energije i poletna tijekom cijelog dana, fizički mogu sve normalno raditi iz razloga što mi trbuh još nije takve veličine da bi me u bilo čemu ometao.

Zato sam fizički dosta aktivna: svakog jutra izvodim vježbe za trudnice (najčešće jogu) te i dalje posvuda pješačim. Kao što sam jednom već spomenula, cilj mi je 10.000 koraka dnevno, ali ne forsiram ništa i jednostavno stanem kad se umorim. Fizička aktivnost tijekom trudnoće je nevjerojatno važna, jer snažno tijelo lakše podnosi napor poroda i brže se oporavlja nakon istog. Hranim se i dalje veganski i redovito kontroliram krvnu sliku, najviše zbog željeza s kojim sam cijeli život imala problema. Trenutno ih nemam, no doktorica mi je za svaki slučaj preporučila da ga uzimam kao dodatak prenatalnim tabletama, iz razloga što tijelo sada ipak treba veću razinu željeza u krvi te kako bismo izbjegli probleme s tim nakon poroda, posebno zato što namjeravam dojiti. Dosad sam, u prvom i drugom tromjesečju, dobila ukupno 5 kilograma, i kako sam već nekoliko puta napomenula, doista se ne trudim držati težinu pod kontrolom. Ne kontroliram porcije, ne brojim kalorije, ali ni ne posežem za masnom ili slatkom hranom, jer nemam potrebe za njom. Jedem kad sam gladna i jedem do sitosti, krećem se i zdravo se hranim jer vjerujem da te dvije komponente u najvećoj mjeri utječu na moje fizičko i psihičko stanje.

No ima jedna stvar koja mi posebno teško pada, a to je da Borut, Kiara i ja trenutno ne živimo zajedno, iz razloga što u gradu u kojem je smješten Borutov novi klub nismo našli stan, odnosno kuću koja je useljiva prije studenog. Drugim riječima, Kiara i ja živimo same već 3 mjeseca i osim što nam Borut silno nedostaje, vrlo je teško prolaziti kroz trudnoću sama, bez blizine partnera, potpore i pomoći. Najteže mi pada kad pomislim da se ovaj, tako važan i poseban dio života više nikada neće moći vratiti. No s druge strane, najveći i najteži dio je već iza nas i uskoro ćemo opet biti zajedno.

Bisous,

Fée


I’ve just realized that I’m about to enter week 30 of my pregnancy and that second trimester is long gone. I really cannot wrap my head around the fact that all pregnancies (after the 1st one) go by so quickly, but I’m sure that it has something to do with me being relaxed and not obsessed with every single movement and having an older child to take care of all day. People ask me how I’ve been feeling and I joke and say that I don’t have time to think about it and that it might be the reason I’ve been feeling really great.

My first pregnancy was not like that at all. Luckily, it was a normal, healthy pregnancy even then, but for the whole 9 months and 2 weeks I was just not feeling myself. Honestly, I thought that all these stories we hear about pregnancy bliss and happiness were big fat lies and that pregnancy was something that drags on for 9 months and that you just have to deal with it. But this time around, it’s completely different and I don’t know why. Physically I’ve been feeling great, I feel no pain in my body and I’m full of energy. I can sleep and move without any difficulties, probably because mu bump is still not so big.

For that reason, I’ve been pretty active this pregnancy: I work out every morning (mostly prenatal yoga) and I still walk everywhere. As I once mentioned, my goal is to make 10,000 steps a day (with a very active and curious 4-year-old, believe me, it’s not too much), but I don’t push myself over my limits and I simply stop when I get tired. Physical activity during pregnancy is so important, because it makes your delivery easier as well as the postnatal recovery. I’m still on my plant based vegan diet and my blood test results are fine, as well as my iron levels, but my doctor recommended to take some iron supplements, just because my body needs more iron than usual, especially because I plan on breastfeeding, so we want to avoid difficulties later. Just for the record, during my first pregnancy, I was suffering from terrible iron deficiency and I was eating meat and fish at that time. Up until now, I gained 5 or 6 kilograms and as I said before, I am really not trying to keep my weight under control. I don’t control my portions, I don’t count calories, but I do avoid processed, greasy and sugary food. I eat when I’m hungry and I stop when I’m full, I am active and eat healthy and I believe that these two factors are crucial for my physical and mental health.

There is one thing that makes things pretty difficult. Borut doesn’t live with us at the moment, because we were not able to find a place to live in the new town where he moved for his career. In other words, we have been living separately for 3 months, but luckily, we managed to find a house and we are moving in together in November. The situation is far from ideal at the moment because we miss him very much, and also, it’s been very difficult to go through pregnancy alone, as you can imagine. Not having your partner around for support or help is far from perfect. I feel very sad when I remember that we will never have this part of life again, but on the other hand, we will be together again very soon.

Bisous,

Fée

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MATERNITY STYLE INSPIRATION

Čim sam saznala da sam trudna, bacila sam se u potragu za modnom inspiracijom, jer nekako mi se uvijek činilo da se trudnicama puno teže i kompliciranije odijevati u hladnijim mjesecima negoli u ljetnim. S Kiarom je bilo jednostavno: veći dio trudnoće provela sam u ljetnim haljinama, širokim majicama i sandalama ili japankama, s ponekim zgodnim modnim detaljem. Osim što obožavam modu, čvrsto vjerujem da se žena uvijek treba osjećati lijepom, za vrijeme trudnoće pogotovo, te da trudnoća ne treba biti razlog za napuštanje vlastitog stila.

I tako sam počela pretraživati instagram i Pinterest te ubrzo naišla na Lauru Wills, britansku modnu blogericu, mamu dvoje djece (s trećom bebom na putu!), koju možete pronaći na instagramu pod imenom @thefashionbugblog.

Njezin je stil dosta sličan mojemu: traperice, udobne haljine, oversized pletivo i jednostavni outfiti s ponekim upečatljivim modnim detaljem poput dobrog komada nakita, ogromnog remenja, modernih cipela i dizajnerskih torbi. U njenom ormaru naći ćete puno neutralnih boja i dizajnerskih komada, no i dosta Manga i H&M-a. Sviđa mi se što nesebično dijeli detalje svojih modnih kombinacija sa svojim pratiteljima te uvijek pronalazi cjenovno prihvatljivije komade za one koji nisu spremni uložiti malo bogatstvo u svoj ormar.

U nastavku vam donosim nekoliko meni najdražih Laurinih kombinacija. Koja vam je favorit?

Bisous,

Fée

 

As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I started looking for some maternity style inspiration for fall and winter, as I felt it was much more difficult to dress the bump in colder months than in the summer. In my first pregnancy, it was easy: I basically spent 6 months in summer dresses, oversized T-shirts and cute sandals. I love fashion, but more than that, I strongly believe that women should always feel beautiful and amazing and that pregnancy should not be the reason to compromise on your personal style.

So I started browsing through instagram and Pinterest and stumbled across Laura Wills, a British blogger, a mom of 2 (with baby number 3 on the way!). You can find her on instagram under the name @thefashionbugblog.

Her style is really similar to mine: she likes jeans, comfortable dresses, oversized knitwear and really simple outfits with some statement pieces like jewelry, huge belts, cute shoes and designer bags. You’ll find lots of neutrals and designer pieces in her wardrobe, but also a lot of Mango and H&M. What I especially like about her is that she loves to share outfit details with her followers and she’ll always link similar more affordable pieces for those who are not willing to invest a small fortune in their clothes.

Here are a few photos of Laura. Isn’t she one beautiful and chic pregnant lady? Which outfit do you like the most?

Bisous,

Fée

FIRST TRIMESTER

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Just like the first two times, we were shocked to find out I was pregnant because, again, we were not making any plans or trying to get pregnant. As a matter of fact, we decided to wait until the end of the year because we thought we would stay in Celje for another season or two and it would be easier to move while being pregnant than with a newborn. Also, we booked our trip to Zanzibar and you certainly don’t want to go to Zanzibar pregnant! As always, when things I cannot control happen, I try to relax and trust that it all happens for a reason which I don’t necessarily have to understand and that I’m in good hands. With years I’ve really learned to trust God, the Universe or whatever you want to call it, and hardly anything makes me worried or anxious. So I decided to relax and trust the amazing process of life and believe that every little thing is going to be fine.

First three months felt surreal and flew by really fast. We didn’t talk about the new baby too often, I didn’t feel pregnant and now looking back at it, I guess it was some kind of a defense system because of what happened in my previous pregnancy. I felt great in general, but somewhere around week 9, first symptoms crept in. I was still sticking to my morning routine: getting up before 5 am, meditation, workout or running, then work, housework, cooking, cleaning, etc. Everything was pretty normal until late afternoon, when I would become a totally different person. I felt exhausted, sad for no apparent reason, nothing would make me excited or interested and to take care of my family and our home felt like moving a mountain. I was really becoming frustrated with myself,  because I’m usually really active and positive, when one day, one of my favorite blogger sand instagramers Lucia who is also a doctor and a mom of two (pregnant with her third) talked about prenatal depression. I was listening to her and felt like she was talking about me and at the same time, I was totally relieved as I realized I wasn’t crazy or alone. Besides that, I lost my appetite and could barely force myself to eat anything, so I lost 2 kg. All symptoms went away somewhere around week 14 and since then I’ve been feeling amazing. I’ll talk about it more at the beginning of my third trimester.
Here’s a list of activities that got me through prenatal depression so feel free to share with someone you think might need it. And remember, the hardest thing is to get off the couch when you’re feeling completely down. But once you do it, everything else seems much easier:
-taking a walk
-a cup of tea
-meditation
-music
-cleaning
-early bedtime
-good company (happy and positive people are the best cure)

All in all, I can honestly say that this time around, first trimester was much easier than in my first pregnancy. I hope it stays that way.

Bisous,

Fée

*photos: Nina Lončarić

*dress: Lei Lou by Alex Dojčinović

*coat: Stradivarius (borrowed)

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PRVO TROMJESEČJE

Kao i u prve dvije trudnoće, bili smo šokirani kad smo saznali da sam trudna. Nismo stvarali nikakve velike planove niti “pokušavali”, štoviše, dogovorili smo se da ćemo pričekati do kraja godine, jer smo mislili da ćemo ostati u Celju još sezonu ili dvije. Na kraju krajevam jednostavnije bi se bilo seliti u trudnoći, nego s tek rođenom bebom. Osim toga, rezervirali smo putovanje na Zanzibar, a na daleki je put u egzotični kraj definitivno napornije ići u trudnoći. Dosad sam naučila da se u situacijama koje ne mogu kontrolirati trebam opustiti i vjerovati da se sve događa s razlogom, koji ne moram razumjeti u tom trenutku te da sam u dobrim rukama. Naučila sam imati potpuno povjerenje u Boga, Svemir, koji god imenom znali to nešto iznad nas i zbog toga me malo što može uzrujati ili zabrinuti. Zato sam se odlučila opustiti, prepustiti nevjerojatnom procesu života i vjerovati da će sve biti u najboljem redu. Tako je i bilo.

Prva tri mjeseca su proletjela i djelovala dosta nestvarno. Nismo često razgovarali o novoj bebi, nisam se osjećala kao trudnica i gledajući unatrag, vjerujem da je to na neki način bio obrambeni mehanizam zbog onoga što se dogodilo u prethodnoj trudnoći. Osjećala sam se potpuno normalno, a negdje u devetom tjednu počeli su prvi simptomi. Iako sam se strogo držala svoje jutarnje rutine (buđenje prije 5 sati, meditacija, trening, trčanje, posao, kućanski poslovi, itd.), za kasnih popodneva i večeri pretvorila bih se u potpuno drugu osobu. Odjednom sam bila iscrpljena, tužna bez ikakvog razloga, ništa me nije veselilo, a briga za obitelj i dom činila se kao najveći napor na svijetu. Već sam postajala ljuta na samu sebe, jer nisam navikla biti takva, kad je jednog dana jedna divna blogerica Lucia (inače liječnica i majka dvoje djece s trećim na putu) opisala kako se osjeća u prvom tromjesečju trudnoće i spomenula prenatalnu trudnoću. Pažljivo sam slušala sve što je govorila i prepoznala se u svakoj riječi. Iako nikada prije nisam čula za prenatalnu depresiju, osjećala sam olakšanje jer sam shvatil da nisam luda, a ni sama. Od ostalih simptoma, primijetila sam i manjak apetita zbog čega sam izgubila 2 kilograma, a negdje oko 14. tjedna svi su simptomi potpuno nestali i od tada se osjećam sjajno. No o tome ću pisati na početku trećeg tromjesečja.

Na kraju, podijelit ću i popis aktivnosti koje su meni pomogle u stanju prenatalne depresije – možda nekome dobro dođe. Podsjećam, najteže je ustati s kauča kad se osjećaš iscrpljeno i nemoćno. No jednom kad ustaneš, sve postaje lakše:
-šetnja
-šalica čaja (kavu sam izbjegavala jer mi nije bila ukusna)
-meditacija
-glazba
-čišćenje
-rani odlazak u krevet
-dobro društvo (sretni i zadovoljni ljudi su najbolji lijek za sve)

Sve u svemu, mogu reći da mi je ovoga puta prvo tromjesečje bilo mnogo lakše nego u trudnoći s Kiarom. Nadam se da će tako i ostati.

Bisous,

Fée

*fotografije: Nina Lončarić

*haljina: Lei Lou by Alex Dojčinović

*ljetni kaputić: Stradivarius (posuđen)